My #1 Secret to Success
Updated: Jan 29, 2019
Find out how I was able to say goodbye to the negative self-talk & start living my best life!
Okay my friends, do you want to know my #1 Secret to Success???
Get Over Yourself! I know, it sounds harsh, but oh is it necessary! Before my company Aerial Physique really took off, I lived in fear. Fear of what others would think, fear that my ideas weren’t good enough, fear that I’m not skilled enough and fear to put myself out there. Well … that was a big waste of time and mental energy! When I began to realize that EVERYONE HAS INSECURITIES AND FEARS, it helped me to overcome my own.
Success comes from within. To be successful, you must become the person who is ready to put themselves out there, despite the fearful voice inside your head. You must be ready to face judgments, haters, setbacks and yes, even failure. If you stay stuck in your ‘fear story’ you’re never going to finally open that aerial studio you’ve dreamed about, or start your own clothing line, or move to New York City. What about finally talking to that handsome guy at the gym you secretly stalk (ha, that was me!). Do it.
I know what you may be thinking. Ok Jill, but how the heck do I stop those crazy thoughts and stories in my head!? How do I get out of my fear story? Below are reminders that I tell myself daily. Believe me, I’m no perfect person, fear creeps in from time to time.
When it does, I come back to these 5 principles.
Think you need permission? Guess what, you don’t!
One thing that holds many people back from going after their dreams is that they seek other people’s approval prior to doing anything. The funny thing is, sometimes the approval they seek is from people they don’t even like or care about! Are you passionate about baking but feel you need to ask your best friend, your hairdresser, the lady you practice next to in yoga class, for their opinion before you begin? Maybe you notice when you do ask them, you get mixed messages. Some are supportive, others give you their opinion about the risk involved and how you didn’t go to an official baking school. Maybe they say you don’t have any experience running a business and blah, blah, blah. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes feedback is necessary, but when it’s negative, SCREW THEM! If you're passionate about it, if you daydream about it, if you get goosebumps talking about it, DO IT!
My favorite life motto – “I asked me and me said YES!” I live by this daily and don’t seek permission from anyone but myself to do anything and everything I’m excited and passionate about.
If you’re waiting for the ‘right time’ it doesn’t exist I need to lose weight, I need to get my degree, I’ll do it next year, I’ll do it when ___________.
Sorry to break it to ya, if you use any of the excuses above, chances are you’ll probably never give your dreams a try. One key to my success is I don’t procrastinate. If I think of something, I write it down and map out a plan of action. This mindset has enabled me to self-publish 6 books, create an online tutorial site, have an aerial studio with a staff of 8, travel the world and make a six-figure income all while having plenty of time to enjoy date nights with my hubby, yoga classes and lots of croissants! Have an idea? Write it down and give yourself a deadline to make it happen. From there, work backward and set small attainable goals along the way! Don’t just talk about it, be about it.
Comparison is the thief of joy, it’s so true!
I’m sure you’ve heard this one before. It rings true and will rob you of those feelings of accomplishment and joy! My entire life I’ve been surrounded by beautiful bodies. Growing up as a ballerina, I was forced to compare myself with lean, talented and bendy beauties. Playing the comparison game has been VERY challenging to overcome. I recall times as an adolescent sobbing in my ballet studio bathroom because I wasn’t chosen as the Sugar Plum Fairy due to my lack of banana feet. Or being at the barre and noticing my slightly curvier behind and allowing it to make me feel that I wasn’t good enough. I always wanted what other people had, beautiful feet and a rail-thin figure with no booty in sight. To you non- dancers, you probably think I’m crazy. Yes, I am petite, but in the dance world (especially 15 years ago) the desire for physical perfection was the norm. How did I get over it? In all honesty, I haven’t. But the key thing here is, I am now aware of it and understand how lethal it can be. If I catch myself being envious, I resort back to being grateful for everything that makes me unique and my ego begins to slip away.
Life is so hard!
Have you ever had a friend or an acquaintance who always has drama going on? Every time you talk to them their car broke down, someone stole their wallet, they missed their flight, they were late because they got locked out of their apartment. They always have an excuse and play the blame game. Hang around this person too often and their energy is toxic! Everyone has their own perception of life. Your perception is up to you. I choose to see life as a magical, joyful and a fun human experience. I’m here to inspire others and live out my passions every day. How cool is that!? Of course, we all experience adversities, setbacks and unpleasant situations (like those three cavities I must get filled next week, eek!). You choose how life affects you. Success does not accompany excuses, the blame game or negativity.
Believe that success is possible
To be successful in anything you must believe you can accomplish it. Whether it’s that you want to nail that handstand, learn Italian or bake the perfect cupcake. What if you want to earn a million bucks by the age of 35, or get all A’s during finals week? You have to believe you can do it. Many of us carry around stories about why success is for other people. Possibly it’s because of our upbringing, maybe something someone said or even a silly make-believe story that we’ve told ourselves for years. If you have read this far into what I’ve had to say, I have a feeling success is important to you. If you can’t give yourself permission quite yet, then I GIVE YOU PERMISSION to be successful. Book that dream trip, talk to that hot guy at the coffee shop, take that crazy fitness class you’ve been wanting to try, open that vegan ice cream shop! Do it all, you are UNIQUE and DESERVING of success in all forms. Repeat after me… “I am unique and deserving of success in all forms, I am unique and deserving of success in all forms, I am unique and deserving of success in all forms.”
There you have it, you’re on your way to success!
xo - Jill